Why every single woman needs a Diggler, in their life.

In the search for Mr Right, or Mr Right Now, it is important to remember, and make time for the other important (and often useful) people in your life.

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In the search for Mr Right, or Mr Right Now, it is important to remember, and make time for the other important (and often useful) people in your life.

I know what you’re thinking; Dirk Diggler and the movie about John Holmes of Boogie Nights fame, with his extraordinary … umm appeal … well your wrong.

I have what every single woman needs or wants, and should most definitely have; that’s a Mr Fix it who, in my case so happens to be named Dirk. So the name association with Diggler, is really just a coincidence, and only popped into my head when I thought of this story title … I have never watched a Dirk Diggler movie … or atleast, have no recollection of ever doing so.

So, now that we are clear on that part, I think every single woman needs a male friend like Dirk, whom I will affectionately refer to as DD in this article.  

Why you ask, do we need a DD then, if he’s not actually a Dirk Diggler?

Until this weekend, I didn’t realise how lucky I was to have my very own DD. Not only has my DD been a great friend to have throughout my single years, he’s always been there to;

  • Remind me that I’m okay when I’m down and out.
  • Wine and Dine with me, when I’m feeling up and out.
  • Do all the manly things we all need doing and have to begrudgingly admit our ex used to, or fail to do …

NOW, a DD doesn’t have to be an ex boyfriend or potential lover. In fact you don’t want him to be any of those because, well, we all know what happens if you get mixed up with an ex again. Imagine then if you slept with your DD, and let’s just say his personal tool box wasn’t as well … diversified, as the one he carries in his car: then who would you call?

So a great mate he is, and lucky for me, my DD was already in a long-term, loving relationship. Therefore there was never any chance of his tools getting mislaid … because I believe in the sisterhood.

Admittedly, I made damn sure that our friendship was sustained throughout my romantic relationships, no matter how jealous my ex would get at times, therefore this DD didn’t just drop out of the sky when I broke up. He’s been in my life for more than 10 years.

I also don’t want to limit your thoughts on this DD’s to that of just the tool-shed. This is every woman’s dream man, as he can do more than one thing at a time, yes that’s right ladies … he’s multi-talented, and therefore an even greater threat to his own species.

This is a man that can not only erect, I mean, assemble a piece of furniture in a flash, but likes to eat good food and drink fine wine at the hippest restaurants and wine bars, across town.

But if this isn’t enough to make you salivate with jealousy at my joyous freedom and helping man hand: this DD has a mother, who struggled through life as a single parent too. Thus the man has empathy, which – as we all may know, is very often the missing chip.

So he gets my plight and knows everything there is to know about women’s health too … god love those of us who raise boys to understand women!

Of course having him there for all this, plus to provide me with a male’s perspective on all my single life/dating woes, well need I say more!

The moral of my story is: you must keep your friends near and dear, this includes male friends, because if the ship sinks in the middle of the Atlantic, then you want to make sure you have a good strong friend with an oar in hand, to be at your rescue.

Though this is my story, I am always keen to hear if any of you have a similar story about a DD, or equivalent fabulous male in your lives.

Yours truly,

A.R.T

Some wise words to remind us each day

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Four Ways To Lose a Woman’s Trust.

I just read this article on the The Good Men Project. Whilst the title of the story grabbed my attention, the content really struck a cord. The author, a single father, blogger and radio presenter known as Showtime, not only opens his story with a great quote, but he closes it with this equally powerful quote.

Lets begin to open our eyes and walk with a spirit of trustworthiness in our relationships.

I liked all four of his points made in this article, and although they are all equally as important as the other, I have bolded what I thought, were the most critical aspects of the issues he raises here.

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1. Talk Down To Her or Belittle Her

A lot of times the things that we say have harsher consequences to those that we are speaking to than the things that we actually do.  How can you expect to be respected in a healthy relationship when the woman can’t even trust you with her feelings and emotions?  The focus of your words should be to uplift and empower her, not to make her feel small or insignificant.  Two things in life that you can’t take back are the stone after its been thrown, and the words after they have been said. Once a woman sees that you are not compassionate and mindful of her feelings she is going to automatically begin to shut down and lose the emotional connection that you shared.

2.  Be Inconsistent

There is nothing that screams dishonesty to a woman more than an inconsistent man.  If you say you are going to do something, do it! If you say you are going to be somewhere, get there! If you say that you know what you want, you better find a way to prove it.  Many times our words don’t match our actions.  We can say one thing today, and by tomorrow we are doing something totally different.  This is a red flag to many women because when they see the inconsistency factor within you they have make the decision that you are not the one to give them the things that they need in a relationship.

3.  Not Communicating Effectively 

You can’t expect to get anywhere in your relationship if there is a lapse in your communication.  The quickest way to end a relationship is by stonewalling and not tackling issues head on.  Making the assumption that someone knows what you are thinking before you tell them is hardly the best way to sustain an emotional connection.  We have to be sure that we are outright while saying what we mean and meaning what we say. This form of unmitigated communication can help us avoid a world of trouble within our relationship if we just take a moment and say what is on our mind.

Also, don’t think that communication is only about how well you speak.  You must also listen with the same intent as you talk.  Don’t just hear what she is saying, allow her words to penetrate your mind and take every word in.  The last thing that a woman wants is to feel like she isn’t being taken serious because you aren’t listening to the things that she says about the matters that she feels are important. –

4. Not Putting Her Needs Before Your Wants

Having the desire to want things to go our way is simple human nature. Most of us want things to go according to our plan because we feel like if they don’t we may be in jeopardy of losing something important. But what happens when you get so caught up in what you want that you forget about what the woman needs?  Many times we allow our desire for certain situations to go in our favor to outweigh our impact of  meeting the needs of the person we care about.  One of the major factors in true love is selflessness. Sometimes you have to walk away from the things that you want in order for the person that you love to get what they need.  Once both individuals begin to project a true spirit of selflessness within the relationships the trust factor will come easily because both people will understand that its no longer about me, but all about we.

Lets begin to open our eyes and walk with a spirit of trustworthiness in our relationships.  That way we can eliminate all of those unnecessary that are holding us back from having the happiness that we deserve.  Give up those things taht are preventing us from growing so that you can be the man that she needs you to be.

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If you want to see the full article, including the opening and closing paragraphs omitted here, then please Click Here  – to go to the good men project

Alternatively, you can find the original story on the http://www.thesinglefathersblog.com/4-ways-to-lose-a-womans-trust/

Yours Truly

A.R.T

 

 

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