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Why every single woman needs a Diggler, in their life.

In the search for Mr Right, or Mr Right Now, it is important to remember, and make time for the other important (and often useful) people in your life.

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In the search for Mr Right, or Mr Right Now, it is important to remember, and make time for the other important (and often useful) people in your life.

I know what you’re thinking; Dirk Diggler and the movie about John Holmes of Boogie Nights fame, with his extraordinary … umm appeal … well your wrong.

I have what every single woman needs or wants, and should most definitely have; that’s a Mr Fix it who, in my case so happens to be named Dirk. So the name association with Diggler, is really just a coincidence, and only popped into my head when I thought of this story title … I have never watched a Dirk Diggler movie … or atleast, have no recollection of ever doing so.

So, now that we are clear on that part, I think every single woman needs a male friend like Dirk, whom I will affectionately refer to as DD in this article.  

Why you ask, do we need a DD then, if he’s not actually a Dirk Diggler?

Until this weekend, I didn’t realise how lucky I was to have my very own DD. Not only has my DD been a great friend to have throughout my single years, he’s always been there to;

  • Remind me that I’m okay when I’m down and out.
  • Wine and Dine with me, when I’m feeling up and out.
  • Do all the manly things we all need doing and have to begrudgingly admit our ex used to, or fail to do …

NOW, a DD doesn’t have to be an ex boyfriend or potential lover. In fact you don’t want him to be any of those because, well, we all know what happens if you get mixed up with an ex again. Imagine then if you slept with your DD, and let’s just say his personal tool box wasn’t as well … diversified, as the one he carries in his car: then who would you call?

So a great mate he is, and lucky for me, my DD was already in a long-term, loving relationship. Therefore there was never any chance of his tools getting mislaid … because I believe in the sisterhood.

Admittedly, I made damn sure that our friendship was sustained throughout my romantic relationships, no matter how jealous my ex would get at times, therefore this DD didn’t just drop out of the sky when I broke up. He’s been in my life for more than 10 years.

I also don’t want to limit your thoughts on this DD’s to that of just the tool-shed. This is every woman’s dream man, as he can do more than one thing at a time, yes that’s right ladies … he’s multi-talented, and therefore an even greater threat to his own species.

This is a man that can not only erect, I mean, assemble a piece of furniture in a flash, but likes to eat good food and drink fine wine at the hippest restaurants and wine bars, across town.

But if this isn’t enough to make you salivate with jealousy at my joyous freedom and helping man hand: this DD has a mother, who struggled through life as a single parent too. Thus the man has empathy, which – as we all may know, is very often the missing chip.

So he gets my plight and knows everything there is to know about women’s health too … god love those of us who raise boys to understand women!

Of course having him there for all this, plus to provide me with a male’s perspective on all my single life/dating woes, well need I say more!

The moral of my story is: you must keep your friends near and dear, this includes male friends, because if the ship sinks in the middle of the Atlantic, then you want to make sure you have a good strong friend with an oar in hand, to be at your rescue.

Though this is my story, I am always keen to hear if any of you have a similar story about a DD, or equivalent fabulous male in your lives.

Yours truly,

A.R.T

James Sama: Talks About The 10 Qualities of A More Desirable Man.

James Sama is a speaker & writer, specialising in Dating and Relationships.  He recently wrote this piece, which I found on the GoodMenProject, called: 10 Qualities of A desirable man.

I wanted to share his article, as it speaks volumes about what women are looking for in men; and although it may seem a bit like The Perfect Man List; the writer is only trying to share his thoughts on the qualities a man should possess, to be more desirable. He is honest enough to admit even he doesn’t possess them all, but there is no reason why you couldn’t strive towards it.

It’s very clear and articulately written, and I would suggest any man looking to attract the right woman, or keep the right woman in his current relationship, should consider reading this.

An excerpt from James article. 

A desirable man is well-spoken.

One of the qualities I have worked the hardest to develop in myself is the ability to speak effectively. To be able to convey emotions, intentions, thoughts and ideas clearly and concisely will provide infinite benefits to your life. Not only will you be less likely to be misunderstood, but people will actually enjoy conversing with you.

Additionally, in matters of dating and relationships, there are few things more helpful than an extensive vocabulary. If you don’t think women respond positively to how things are worded, then you’ve never heard of “50 Shades Of Grey.”

Happy reading

Yours Truly

A.R.T

 

How I Ditched Online Dating and Learnt to flirt

Theo Merz wrote this very funny article for SMH back in February this year; but it couldn’t be more relative to me right now, with my own story of being worn down by Online Dating.

Here’s are the first two introductory paragraphs from Theo’s article.  

When a friend mentioned the ‘flirt walk’ she had gone on the week before, I was intrigued. Ok Cupid, with its algorithm to match you up to potential partners; sure. Tinder, which removes any possibility of rejection from the act of seduction – great. An organised walking tour around the streets of London looking to meet prospective partners in person? It all seemed so quaint and inefficient.

But the more I thought about it, the more sense it made.There’s something a bit Rime of the Ancient Mariner about being single in London, or any other big city – people, people everywhere but nobody to have a flirtatious conversation with on the morning commute – which no number of matchmaking sites can make up for. And with every unattached man and woman in the Western World on some form of online dating, it seemed about time for a backlash.

Click here to read the remaining paragraphs of this article. 

 

Happy Reading

Yours Truly

A.R.T